Caring is a word that means things like, “looking after another,” and “providing for the needs of another; to protect.”
It is similar in meaning to words like nurture, watch over, look after, be crazy about, be fond of, desire, enjoy being with, find congenial, hold dear, like, love, prize, respect, want, treasure, and cherish.
Do these sounds like words you would love to be able to use when describing your relationship with your husband? Do you desire to find ways to show your husband you care about him? If so, here are some ideas you may find helpful:
First of all, respect him. This is a powerful gift a wife can give to her husband. It is essential to him and is necessary for a healthy marriage. This begins when a wife chooses to focus on what her husband does “right,” rather than dwelling on what he does wrong. It is learning to admire, adore, accept, and appreciate him-not only for what he does for you and the children, but for who he is as a man.
Two terrific books that I’ve read that explain how a wife can accomplish this, and can dramatically impact her marriage in a powerful way are The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger and Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
Secondly, she must trust him. This is showing absolute confidence in another human being. It is how a wife says to her husband that she believes in him. Even when he makes a wrong or bad decision, a wife can choose to trust him, despite the outcome. It is such a dramatic way to say how much she loves him and believes in who he is. Because a healthy relationship must be built on trust, this is a wife’s way of strengthening the marriage. Yet, trust must be earned. It is not to be treated lightly.
Thirdly, she will support him. You’ve heard it said, “Behind every good man is his wife.” This is where a wife can sustain him through difficult ordeals; assist him and simply “be there” for him; choose to back him up, whatever the circumstance. Her support shows him that she believes in him and wants him to succeed.
Finally, she will accept him. A wife can only do this when unconditional love is expressed. It’s not a wife’s job to “fix” her husband. When she tries to do this, anger and resentment will become a part of her demeanor and a wall in the marriage relationship can result.
While changing her husband is not the goal, communication is. A wife should be encouraged to communicate-not to nag. She should feel free to share her thoughts, ideas and suggestions with her husband, but then let God take over. When a wife does this, her husband is usually receptive and considers himself blessed.
Is caring an easy thing to do? No, not always, but it is worth the effort. Caring will often make the difference between a strong and healthy marriage versus one that is not.
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