What did you think of when you read “Adult Swim?” Well, unlike the term meaning time alone for adults in the swimming pool, it’s a term meant to be associated with time alone for a husband and wife at home.
This idea is not original to me, but one that was shared with me by a dear friend. She and her husband use this term in their home when they want to be alone. They’ve taught all four of their homeschooled children that when they hear, “adult swim,” that means they need to go and find something else to do while mom and dad have time alone to talk, enjoy a cup of coffee, or whatever they can fit in while the children are busy in another part of the house.
In my own marriage of 34 years and 5 children, making time for my husband has always been my top priority. While there will always be distractions in our daily lives, finding time to be with your mate–even in small ways–is so necessary.
If you are a homeschooling mom, as I have been for 20 years, or our life is busy with small children, you and I need to be creative in how we find time to be with our man. Here are just a few ideas that have helped me in my marriage and may enable you to brainstorm ideas of your own:
- Jim and I really enjoy a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. I make sure the water and coffee grounds are prepared in the pot the night before, plugged into a timer that allows it to perk or drip just before we have to wake up the next morning, and then get back under the covers of our bed or the throw blankets of our recliners and sip our coffee in the dark. This provides us with the opportunity to discuss what is on our hearts, the events of the day, or just sit in the quietness of the morning.
If you both enjoy a warm beverage to start off the day, get up together an extra half an hour or 45 minutes before you have to start getting ready for the day and give yourselves an opportunity to connect before you both go your separate ways.
- Feed the children separately on occasion, and then the two of you enjoy dinner in your bedroom–alone! (Which reminds me, your bedroom should be the most beautiful room in your house! If it’s not, find out more about how and why it should be by clicking here.)
- Have a set time each night for your children to be in bed. Not only is this healthy for your children, but it helps you and your husband know when you’ll have some quiet time alone.
- When your husband comes home each evening, and after the children have hugged and kissed him, make these next few minutes your time to be alone with him. This could be a great time for a cup of coffee or tea, iced tea, or whatever you both enjoy. Even if you have small children in bouncy seats or climbing the furniture, you can let them play in a controlled situation while the two of you reconnect.
These are just a few, very basic ideas on how to find time to communicate with each other while children are still living in your home. Although simple, they are incredibly valuable for enabling the two of you to stay connected throughout the child-rearing years. As someone once said, “Your children can wait while you work on your marriage, but your marriage can’t wait until your children are grown.”
Take some time to develop your own moments of “adult swim.” It’s not being selfish, and it will definitely bless your children as you both give them the gift of a loving marriage. Plus, how are they going to know how to treat their future mate unless you give them a good example to follow?
As you may have figured out, you can’t do any of these things very well if you haven’t trained your children to respect your time together, but that’s another topic for discussion in another post somewhere!
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